Leaders don't Transfer pain…They TransFORM it

March 16th, 2010 by Gallagher John 2 Comments

This Sunday Pastor Bob Fiedler asked us a great question. Do we transfer pain, or transform it? It was a great question. One in which leaders need to understand. There are distinct differences.

Leaders who transfer pain: start problems, yell & scream, discourage, react with anger, and place blame.

Contrast that with

Leaders who transform pain: solve problems, calm & consistent, encourage, react with forgiveness, grace, and mercy, and they take responsibility.

I asked my brother, Michael, to help me with this post and here are couple examples he had to put this question into perspective:

Basketball coaches: When something goes wrong, does a coach compound it by dwelling on what the players are doing wrong? Or does the coach build his players up by saying what they are doing right?

Teachers: When teachers receive test results they aren’t exactly happy with, do they show the scores to the students and break them down more and create another problem? Or does the teacher look at what could have been taught better and try to fix the problem?

We need more leaders (coaches, teachers, parents, pastors, friends, bosses, etc.) that transFORM rather than transfer pain. When we are able to do this, more people will follow us and more will get accomplished.

So, what other examples can you share of differences you have seen in transferring and transforming pain? Please add your comments! I would love to hear from you.

  • Stan Buck

    Great insight John! I like this one … I want to “transform” and not “transfer” pain as a leader!


  • John Gallagher

    Thanks, Stan. Appreciate the comment and I know you well enough to know that you do transFORM pain. It’s on teh basketball court that you transFER pain!!!