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WHAT (OR WHO) INSPIRES YOU?

February 15th, 2016 by John Gallagher No Comments

 

Is it a song?

Is it a verse?

Is it a picture?

Is it a goal?

Is it a person?

For me, it is situational, for sure.  I am always in search of inspiration.

This weekend, I found that inspiration in my brother, Michael Gallagher.  He has persevered.  He is a survivor!  Michael was born with a congenital heart defect that was detected during a routine sports physical before he turned 10 years old.  Essentially, this ended his sports career before he ever got started.  Since then, Michael has had three surgeries to repair (and replace!) the defect.  This weekend, Michael was honored by the Roanoke Heart Association at their annual Heart Ball as a survivor.  Here he is with us on that night.  He is the TALL one, even though I still call him my ‘little’ brother.

Survivor

He has persevered.  He has been given clean bill of health and now is  a referee of the sport he loves most.  He is a husband, a son, a brother, an uncle, and friend.  He IS an inspiration to me!

What (Or Who) inspires you?

WIVES, MOTHERS, MOTHERS-IN-LAW (aka, LEADERS) TURN ORDINARY INTO EXTRA-ORDINARY!

April 6th, 2014 by John Gallagher 2 Comments

 

 

The three most important ladies in my life… my wife, my mother, and my mother-in-law… have spiritual gifts.  Leaders have spiritual gifts.  Therefore, the ladies in my life are leaders.  (My son told me that, in logical terms,  is a ‘valid statement’ (IAI2)).  Here is a picture of them with a few other fantastic ladies.

ladies in lifeFrom left to right: My mother-in-law, Nancye.  Her Mom, Madge.  My mom, Vickey,  our friend-Mandy Ball, my lovely wife, Chris, and my favorite sister-in-law, Lisa!

Now, I believe that my wife, mother, and mother-in-law have the gift of hospitality, but more importantly, they have the ability to take some ordinary moment and turn it into an EXTRA-ordinary experience!  What do I mean?

Recently, we had friends over to the house for a barbecue.  Of course, I would have put out the regular condiments like the ones below:

ordinaryThat really is all you need, right?  Relish, mayonnaise, mustard, ketchup.   But, my wife took the time to transfer all of the condiments into different containers to make the experience go from ordinary bottles, to extra-ordinary presentation:

extraordinaryThe containers were a gift from my mother.  My mother-in-law is famous for little presentation ideas like this.  It is amazing how she can present grape jelly!!  Call me crazy, but I think the condiments actually TASTED better from these containers.  You see, these ladies have an ability to take something ordinary like ketchup and mustard and present it in a special, extraordinary way.  Why?  Because they want to do extra work?  NO!!!!  It is because they CARE about others and want to make an ordinary burger and dog taste like an extra-ordinary experience from a 5-star restaurant!  Our friends referred to the ketchup as ‘special’, and to the store-brand yellow mustard as ‘grey poupon’.  Frankly, I have not honored these women enough for their EXTRA-ordinary love.

I believe their ability to turn ordinary into extra-ordinary has been a gift to me as a husband, son, son-in-law, AND leader.  I hope that I am able to create extra-ordinary moments for others like they often do for me, my family, and friends.

So, I have a couple questions for the Leaders who follow my blog:

1) When was the last time you turned an ordinary experience into an extra-ordinary moment for those you lead?  

2)  When was the last time you let a special person in your life know you appreciate their ability to do that for you?

Thank you, Chris.  Thank you, Mom.  Thank you, Mrs. White… for caring enough to create extra-ordinary moments for me and others.  I love you all.

 

 

 

DO YOU NEED A COACH? 3 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF

October 25th, 2013 by John Gallagher 2 Comments

 

 

 

The dictionary defines a coach as: “a person involved in the direction, instruction and training of the operations of a team or of individual “.  I think that is a fair definition.  I expand that definition myself to : a coach is “a person involved in leading an individual or team to a place they might not be able to go on their own.”

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As a leader, you should want to develop and grow as an individual.  Do you need a coach to help you grow?  Here are 3 questions that you need to ask to determine if you might need a coach:

1) Do you have someone that asks you about your personal goals?

2) Do you have someone that asks you about your business or professional goals?

3) Do you have someone that asks you about your family goals?

If you answered ‘no’ to any of those questions above, then you probably need a coach.  Now, you don’t have to go out and sign up for an executive, business or life coach (although that may be helpful!), but you do need to have someone in your life that will ask you these questions above and hold you accountable to making changes.  You also might need to start reading more in the areas of these questions.

Ultimately, we have to make a choice to want to be coached.

So, did you answer ‘no’ to any of these questions?  What would be possible for you if you had a coach? 

 

3 REASONS YOU MAY BE HANGING WITH THE WRONG PEOPLE

September 15th, 2013 by John Gallagher No Comments

“Are you the person you want to be in a relationship with wants to be in a relationship with?” – Andy Stanley

business relationship

To be successful, you need to hang around people that are more successful than you are.  You learn from them.  You grow if you have a learning spirit.  Do you find yourself hanging around the right people?  If not, there may be some specific reasons.  Here are 3 that come to my mind that may keep you from being with the right people:

1) You chronically see the negative – Listen to your words and what comes out of your mouth.  Do you have a tendency to be a pessimist?  To me, these folks are energy vampires.  They suck the energy right out of me.

2) You are self-focused – Do you spend more time talking about yourself than you do learning about the person you are getting to know?  Assess where you are here.  If I only want to know about you, I can go look at your LinkedIn profile.

3) You ‘hang out’ in the wrong places – Let’s face it.  You have to be where other successful people are.  Where do the people ‘hang out’ that you like to be around?  Are you attending great conferences? Are you reading great books?  Are you listening to great podcasts?  Start a hang-out like a book club.  See if you begin to grow.  Share a podcast you love to listen to with another leader.

Andy Stanley’s podcast question challenged me.  I am putting my own twist on it:

Are you the kind of person you want or need to hang around with …wants or needs to hang arount with?  If the answer to that question is no, you may need to make some adjustments.

What other reasons might you not be hanging out with the right people?

THE NUMBER ONE WAY TO GET WHAT YOU WANT

April 28th, 2013 by Gallagher John 2 Comments

It really is pretty simple.  The best way to get what you want is…

giveYou see, as leaders, friends, parents, spouses… It really isn’t about YOU.  It is about others.  So, if you want to get what you want, just fill in the blank to this statement:

“If I want to get what I want, I must GIVE _______________________.”

I don’t think I need to go farther. What  I need to do is invest some time to reflect on what I must give.  Have a good week.  Be a giver.

So, what do YOU need to GIVE this week?  Let me know by commenting below.  I would love to hear.