Book Review – Who's Got Your Back by Keith Ferrazzi

February 1st, 2010 by Gallagher John No Comments

I just finished reading who’s got your back by Keith Ferrazzi.

I had also read Keith’s book, Never Eat Alone, a few years back and was drawn to this book on the bookstore shelf with it’s bright blue jacket, but even more when I saw the sub-title “The Secret to Finding the 3 People Who Will Change Your Life.”

As I jumped in, I was not disappointed.  Ultimately, the book revolves around the four core mind-sets that form the behavioral foundation for creating lifeline relationships (p. 41):
1) Generosity
2) Vulnerability
3) Candor
4) Accountability

I found many different points within the book to be effective.  At the start, he mentions that the people you are relating with now are likely not the ones who you will be relating with as you grow and mature.   Amusingly, his therapist referred to getting into the habit of “plucking the weeds and tending the flowers.”  Weeds are individuals who bring you down and flowers are the relationships you have that bring brightness, ideas, support and meaning to your life.  It is hard to weed out at times in my personal life.  Comes with my personality profile in that I want to believe and trust everyone and don’t want to tell anyone ‘No’.

I probably could have stopped reading this book about 60 pages before the end.  I thought that it got a little long and went from individual relationship building throughout the first 200+ pages to the team relationship building tips.  My personal opinion is that a non-fiction book that goes much past 220 pages or so gets too long.  Oddly enough, on the same day I finished this book, I read a post from Michael Hyatt about “How to Read a Non-Fiction Book”. His first tip was “Don’t feel that you need to finish.” I thought this was a few days late for me!

In any event, there were MANY good points/takeaways as I mentioned above.  I had 7 ‘dogears’  and many highlights throughout the book that I reviewed.  Thus, I would suggest this book for your reading pleasure.  Because I lost interest in  the last 60 pages or so, I would give this book a 6 out of 10 on the dogear scale.

So, how are you cultivating those life-long relationships in your life.  In those relationships, are you being generour, vulnerable, candid in providing feedback and holding yourself and those relationships accountable for their actions?