Archive for April, 2010

Leaders: As your Responsibilities INCREASE, your rights DECREASE

April 22nd, 2010 by John Gallagher 2 Comments

Anyone who doesn’t believe the title of this post needs to look no farther than the sports headlines today.  Two different stories with the same cause, but different consequences:

This is not a post about judging right or wrong or the individuals involved, but making a point.  As our Responsibilities increase (Quarterback = President), our Rights decrease.  I am not talking about the rights we have as citizens, but the rights we have to make poor judgement and put ourselves in bad situations in the eyes of those who follow us and believe in us.  What have I learned from this Ben Roethlisberger story?

  1. I choose not to put myself in situations like Roethlisberger put himself in.  Aside from the allegations, we live in a world of camera phones, flip video cameras, Twitpic, etc., and our poor judgement can be broadcast, literally, in SECONDS.
  2. Leadership is a full-time position.  24/7.   There is a country song titled “I don’t have to be me til Monday.”  WRONG.  When you leave your ‘office’, you are expected to behave the same way whether or not you can be seen.  This is the definition of CHARACTER
  3. Some wise advice I was given early on:  “If your mother would be embarrassed to read about this action on the front page of the newspaper tomorrow, you probably should not be doing it.”

Ben Roethlisberger has made some poor decisions and put himself into a bad situation.  Whether or not he was convicted, he is the face of the Pittsburgh Steelers’ franchise.  As a leader, he must do better.   I hope that he, as an individual and leader, can recover from this and rebuild trust in the relationships he has damaged.

So, do you agree?  Do your rights DECREASE as your RESPONSIBILITIES increase?  Why or why not?

Book review – Mentor Like Jesus

April 8th, 2010 by John Gallagher No Comments

As a result of commenting on a blog post at www.michaelhyatt.com, I was given the book titled: Mentor Like Jesus by Regi Campbell.  I must say that I really enjoyed this book.  In this book, the author defines a process he developed on his own to called “next-generation mentoring mentor a few men (8) in a year long process.  The author defines a great mentor as “one who can listen, ask good questions, bring others into the conversation, and tell a relevant story to make a point.”  He uses Jesus as the model mentor.

He defined 11 elements of next-generation mentoring: 1) On purpose, 2) Selfless, 3) in a group, 4) handpicked 5) for  defined period of time, 6) Scripture, 7) Prayer, (8) Modeled, 9) Taught along the way, 10) Mutual commitment, 11) Required multiplication.

The elements that touched me the most included:

Handpicked – Generally, a mentee, chooses a mentor, but in this program, the mentor choose the mentees HE wants to mentor…Just like Jesus picked his 12!

Defined period of time – Too often, I think mentoring, once started, goes on for an undefined period.  In this program, there is a specific end date

Required mutual commitment – The sessions are scheduled out a year in advance and there are no ‘excused’ absences or tardies.  His math is simple.  If there are 9 men in the group (1 mentor and 8 mentees) and you are 5 minutes late for a meeting, you aren’t just wasting 5 minutes, you are wasting 45 minutes of time!

Several quotes hit me as well:

  • More time with fewer people equals greater kingdom impact
  • “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” 2 Timothy 1:7
  • A good mentor is like a good tennis coach:  I hit the balls over the net(issue or opportunity), and he simply changes he angle of the return(with great questions).

The book gets a ’6′ on the dogear scale that I use; however, most of the books that I review have 220-250 pages.  This book only has 152 pages, so the effectiveness of the book is much higher than it’s ’6′ rating.  I will be passing a copy along to a friend and would suggest it to you.  I want to thank Michael Hyatt for the opportunity to read this book.

So, what are you waiting on?  When are YOU going to start a mentoring group?  Actually, the book has a great list of questions to let you know WHEN you are ready to start and WHO to mentor!  I have the date set on my calendar for when I will start my mentoring group.  I want to work to prepare myself for it.